Dating an uneducated man
We got married when I was 19 and I married him knowing that I didn't love him.
Later on, I was discussing my ex-husband with my current husband and he asked me why I ever even told my ex that I loved him.
In focusing upon those who are equal to you, you know that you will get the best FOR YOU.
Such lowering may be a temporary superficial remedy, as the real compromise on the overall value of the person is likely to re-emerge soon.Calculating the comparative value of a person is complex as it involves many features that all carry different weights.The comparison can refer to the perfect prince mounted on a white horse or it can be to the next door neighbor.Can such awareness be tolerated, and can it be avoided? The comparative value of the partner "Comparison is the death of joy.” Mark Twain In his excellent book, Passions within Reason, Robert Frank tells the following story about a woman who asked her colleague the following question: "Why is it that the people I fall in love with are never interested in me, whereas the ones who do fall in love with me are never the one I care about?" Her colleague replied: "You're an 8 constantly chasing after 10s, and constantly being chased by 6s." How could this woman know that she is an 8 and not a 7 or a 10? Once you evaluate your partner to be inferior to you in an overall manner, you are faced with making a profound romantic compromise in terms of the partner's value as a person who exists independent of you.
In the last case, it was about a month before the wedding date (and after the invitations had already been sent).